What are values anyway? Values are how we name what we find important in life and what gives us energy. Like the flour and eggs that help a cake become a cake, aligning your life to your values help you become a happy and balanced person. Values are the ingredients that make the best you.
What are your values? Be careful… I didn’t ask you for your parent’s values, the values of the business you work for, or the values of any other influence in your life. Many people fall into the trap of aligning their life to the values of something or somebody else due to their fear of judgement and disappointment–one day turning around and saying, “Why am I not happy?”
Today, make a choice to be happy. Choose to align your life with what YOU value and what gives YOU energy. You most likely won’t be able to align your entire life to your values overnight, but even the most subtle shift can have a profound affect on the state of your happiness.
Here’s how to start living a happier life:
Take a look at this list of values, and choose the top 10 values that jump out at you. These are the values that you instinctually know are important to you. Once you have your list, then narrow it down to your top-five values. To do so, ask yourself the following questions:
- What moment has been the highlight of your life? Describe it. Why was it a highlight? Who was there? What did the environment look like, feel like, sound like? What words were spoken or written? How did you feel, and why? What value(s) was being respected or honored?
- Describe a moment when you have felt wronged. Who or what wronged you? What did the environment look like, feel like, sound like when it happened? What words were spoken or written? How did you feel, and why? What value(s) was being disrespected or hurt?
It’s the values that were respected and honored, or disrespected and hurt, that are the most important to you. These values should be in your top-five list. Your emotional experiences are always the window to what’s most important to you.
Lastly, look at your top-five list and ask yourself, “Are my current life choices aligned with my values 100%?” If not, start brainstorming all the different ways you could shift your life in order to honor your values. Skies the limit! This is your happiness we’re talking about. Don’t cheat yourself–shoot for the moon. Now choose one idea and bring it to life.
Don’t stop there…. everyday make one shift, until one day you turn around and say, “Wow, I’m happy.”
Gina Soleil, is a speaker and acclaimed author of Fuel Your Business: How to energize people, ignite action and drive profit. She blogs and speaks about how to create a business where people are energized, feel good and are happy. Visit Gina Soleil and follow her on Twitter.