Are You the 20% Who Will Be Happy?

Life lessons have the ability to shape you into the best image of yourself–if you allow the transformation to happen. There’s always choice. Become the butterfly and experience happiness or fight the current in order to stay status quo. The choice is always yours….

20% of you reading this blog will choose to become the butterfly; clearly understanding that flying is so much faster than trying to walk everywhere you want to go. Why only 20%? In order to fly you need to lighten your load. You can’t take flight while trying to carry baggage that weighs more than your wings.

Baggage comes in the form of emotional suffering: loneliness, resentment, inability to forgive, EGO, unresolved anger and sadness just to name a few. The older the baggage the heavier the weight–even a small little micro experience of unresolved hurt can harden and turn into a ton of bricks.

20% of you will crush the bricks! You’ll take out your sledge-hammer, and with all your might, no matter how much work it takes, you’ll turn every brick into powder until all the heaviness simply blows away in the wind. And then poof! You take flight.

Today is simply reflection…

Are you one of the 20%?

 

 

The Lesson Facebook Taught Me

Sometimes you just need to go off the grid…

In November, right before the election I took myself off social media. As an empath, I needed a break from the emotional energy permeating through the Web. Little did I know what the Universe had planned for me.

I found myself immersed in this thing call ‘quiet’! It was amazing. I hadn’t realized I was living with this constant buzz in my head of information overload until all of sudden there was nothing. Not to mention I found myself with SO MUCH EXTRA TIME. Time was everywhere! I had no idea how much time I was wasting until this little app called Facebook was off my phone.

Let me be clear… I’m not saying Facebook or other forms of social media are bad. In fact, I love it! The ability to stay connected with friends and family via technology is fantastic–until of course it turns into an addiction that gets in the way of being present with real life. Bottom line, social media is a great ‘tool’ until it turns into your love affair. Anyone getting turned on by your phone more than that special someone in your life?

My big wake-up call, aside from needing to break free from the increasing surge of negative energy erupting during the November election, was when my 9-year old daughter started obsessively asking me how many ‘likes’ she got on her photos… Huston, we might have a problem!

So I jumped off the grid, decided to surround myself with authentic life-giving (versus energy sucking) people and began the quest of ‘doing me’. I replaced my Facebook time with working out, taking some classes, travel, focusing on my career, being present with ‘real life people’ and amping up my spiritual practice. The result–magic happened! 6-months later my career has never been better, I’m surrounded with genuine people who choose to put positive energy into this word and I feel great–ready to take on world!

Moral to the story is that Facebook had nothing to do with my woes, but I was using social media to cover up the spiritual healing that my soul desperately needed. I was putting all my energy and effort toward the external elements that may or may not ‘like’ me (along with so many others in this world); rather than looking in the mirror and choosing to take the time to heal the parts of me that were disconnected and desiring to be whole. Social media was simply a distraction so I didn’t have to face what I was really being called to do. And it was a teacher that provided a valuable lesson to help me grow.

Where am I now? Back on social media and loving it! That said, with balance and an understanding that it truly is just a tool to help us connect in this busy world. And for that I am grateful.

Gina Soleil, is a speaker and acclaimed author of Fuel Your Business: How to energize people, ignite action and drive profit. She blogs and speaks about how to create a business where people are energized, feel good and are happy. Email Gina Soleil and follow her on Twitter.

What Zoos Can Teach Us About Employee Performance

I walked into a client’s office yesterday optimistic and full of life. A great nights sleep, healthy breakfast and ahead of schedule. I was ready to conquer the day.

I sat down in my office disguised as a cubicle and jumped right in. Then an unexpected turn of events happened.  After my first meeting I started to feel drained. My Zip-A-Dee-Doo-Dah pep turned into a series of yawns and random walks around the building to revive myself. No worries, I recovered and got my groove back right before meeting #2. After meeting #2 all shit broke loose. I felt myself completely unmotivated and almost stir crazy. Yikes! I couldn’t even get myself to look at the computer screen let alone get anything accomplished. I was being overtaken by the ugh syndrome before noon! I thought, “Oh, no. What’s happening?”

I started looking around at all the gray–I noticed everything was literally covered in gray. All I could hear was the humming of the air system and florescent lights. Without realizing what was happening all my stuff was packed in my bag and I jetted out the door as fast as possible. I felt absolute relief once I got into my car and started driving away. From there I decided to work from home and the day began to turn itself around.

So what happened at the office? What in the world came over me? I’m not Sherlock Holmes but the mystery was not too difficult to solve.

First, I’m not alone. In fact, there’s a good chance most of you reading this blog have experienced this phenomenon multiple times in your work life. A phenomenon caused by one simple fact–you’re a living human being. Yep, being alive caused me to jump out of the cubical and run for the door. Here’s why…

When you’re at work, you’re no different from an animal in a zoo. Follow me here, it’ll make sense. Have you ever seen a wild animal running and playing freely in its native habitat? They’re happy and performing at their best. Compare that to an open zoo where animals roam in beautiful habitats similar to their natural environment? Not always ideal, but for the most part the animals are relatively satisfied. Now go a step further… Compare the last two examples to a zoo that puts animals in covered cages with concrete floors and glass walls where they stare at the same damn thing everyday. In the last example animals become depressed, slow, sleepy and unmotivated to interact and play with each other. For a human, working in gray cubical land can create the same feeling as being an animal held captive in a concrete cage.

Morale to the story… environment plays a significant role in how productive a person is at work. Air quality, lighting, plants, music, natural light and color all ramp performance up or drive it down into the ground. Even the direction you face in your cubical can play a significant role in how you feel and you’re ability to focus. Feng Shui at the office works. That said, if you don’t have the luxury of designing your office space try these tips to revive your mojo the next time you’re feeling squirrely at work:

  1. Drink water: Believe it or not water is scientifically proven to have the same “wake-up your soul” effect as coffee–but better! Water will keep you hydrated and alert without the crash. By no means am I telling you to stop drinking coffee. I love the stuff! Just keep it balanced and make sure you’re drinking more H2O especially on those days you need to focus.
  2. Just add color: I know, can it get more basic?! Yes, the human mind needs color. Again proven, lack of color is one of the most significant reasons you’re falling asleep at your deck. For you business owners out there, if your office is covered in gray you’re simply asking for employees to fall asleep. An easy fix for those who feel they have no choice, start splashing your work area with colors that energize and keep you moving.
  3. Plants, plants and more plants: Fill your space with greenery! And no, plastic does not count. If you’re scared of killing your new green friend buy a Chinese Evergreen, they’re durable, hearty and can go longer than most plants without water or sunlight. Here’s the deal, plants aren’t just pretty they’ll purify your air and keep you alert. If your office has a no plant policy break the rules and sneak one in any way! Your boss will thank you when they see your performance improve.
  4. Headphones: If you want to keep your groove moving at work start listening to your favorite tunes while cranking away on that spreadsheet or PowerPoint presentation. From classical to death metal…makes no difference just so long as it makes your heart sing and keeps you focused.
  5. Go into the wild: Like animals you do better in your natural habitat. If you have the ability to work from home do it. If not, leave the building at least every couple of hours to breathe some fresh air. Even five minutes of fresh air and walking can turn your day around. And for those freeze babies who live in the arctic tundra with me, throw on a hat, coat and gloves and start walking! You’ll be glad you did guaranteed.

Gina Soleil, is a speaker and acclaimed author of Fuel Your Business: How to energize people, ignite action and drive profit. She blogs and speaks about how to create a business where people are energized, feel good and are happy. Email Gina Soleil and follow her on Twitter. 

How to Make Love in the Boardroom

redefining-love-work-foster-sense-connectionPeople are looking everywhere for ways to feel valued and appreciated. We want to be surrounded by other people who are mindful of our needs in a way that says, “I hear you.” We want to be in the presence of other people who joyfully give us the freedom to be authentic and walk in our truth. We want to feel honored by other human beings with acts of integrity and compassion. We want our creative expression to be celebrated and recognized by others, to be forgiven easily without judgment, and to have other people take responsibility for their own actions. To sum it up in one sentence, in our personal lives we say, “I want to be loved.”

In business we don’t call it love. Oh no, that wouldn’t be politically correct. The word love may not go over well in the boardroom. Heaven forbid we use a word that might make people feel uncomfortable. Ironically, the very thing that makes people feel uncomfortable is the exact thing every human being in business is looking for from their leader and company. Rather, in business we call love “engagement”. You see, when people feel loved they want to give love. In business, we call this exchange of love “discretionary energy”—and this discretionary energy is evaporating from business faster than the speed of light.

Today people feel the void of love more than ever, and most businesses have yet to acknowledge the reality that the only way to have an engaged culture is to have leaders who show-up and live high-character values. Values that include: mindfulness, compassion, forgiveness, integrity, and responsibility. In other words, having leaders who are able to show acts of love. It’s only then that people will become fully engaged and the business can create a high-performing culture.

What gets in the way of leaders being able to show acts of love?  Fear of becoming vulnerable.

Vulnerability is the magic ingredient to showing acts of love and receiving the love that others show. Not only is vulnerability the magic ingredient, it’s the hardest thing for a business to attain because it requires not intellect but heart. Vulnerability is the willingness to do something without a guaranteed result, having the courage to be imperfect, having the ability to be kind to ourselves first, and believing that the things that make you most susceptible and weak to the world are what make you most beautiful. The key to joy, love, and happiness is vulnerability.

In business, vulnerability is overshadowed by fear and shame. As a means of survival and protection from fear and shame people have become experts in denial. We pretend things that are uncertain are, in fact, certain; we pretend we are what we’re not; we put ourselves on a conquest to prefect our existence. All the while, at the core of our human nature, we want to be vulnerable and feel connected. We want to feel loved.

Together, vulnerability and living high-character values is the way forward in business—it’s the solution to employee engagement. Vulnerability is the only way people feel loved, and living high-character values is how love is shown. That said,vulnerability always follows character–it will never happen the other way around. When leaders show up living high-character values, exhibiting acts of love, the culture begins to feel safe. When a culture feels safe people are willing to let their guard down, become vulnerable and give love right back to the business.

Gina Soleil, is a speaker and acclaimed author of Fuel Your Business: How to energize people, ignite action and drive profits. She blogs and speaks about how to create a business where people are energized, feel good and are happy. Visit Gina Soleil at ginasoleil.com and follow her on Twitter.

THE REAL STORY: Why Transparency in Business is Important

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From e-mails to texts to the intranet, people are writing and reading 24/7. Writing is a great art and privilege. People rely on the written language for everything. It’s how we communicate messages, transfer information, gain alignment, and stay connected. That being said, “You can’t believe everything you read” is a statement that holds true in many businesses. To fuel healthy energy, you need to make sure that the messages being written in your business are transparent, and free from deceit, manipulation, and lies. If the words you’re choosing do not deliver a clean message, the whole story, and a positive intent, people will sense deceit a mile away. When they do, your business throws trust right out the window, and the toxic energy those words create will destroy the productivity of your business. People will go from wanting to work for you, to having to force themselves to show up and do the bare minimum just to get paid. No one wants to do anything for someone who uses deceit to manipulate their actions. You need to ensure that your business is not using the art of writing as a form of manipulation. It happens more than you think, especially when the financial stakes appear high.

Transparency is the bridge between truth and clarity, and it’s the action that keeps a business honest. Transparency is how a business delivers the whole story and presents all the details. Transparency is the living action of truth. You might be thinking, A business can’t always be transparent. Spin it however you want from a business leader’s point of view:

We don’t want too much information getting out. If all the information came out it would be detrimental to revenue and profits, and our stock would go down.

We don’t want to rock the boat and harm performance.

We don’t want to take people’s focus away from what they really need to be doing.

They don’t need to know all that information to do their job.

They can’t handle the truth!

Here’s the deal: The truth is going to come out sooner or later. All the information will reveal itself, whether you want it to or not. If you’re not transparent, the truth will start as gossip, and people will take the gossip as truth because that’s the only “information” they have to hang onto. A leader may break under pressure and share everything with a line-level friend, and that line-level friend will share her version of the truth with everyone else. Before you know it the news has spread like wildfire. Now the business has to spend hours fixing, smoothing over, and making excuses for why it wasn’t transparent to begin with; not to mention the effort that now has to go into rebuilding trust rather than nurturing the trust that already exists. Rebuilding is always more costly than maintenance.

As a business leader, you have choice. You can choose to be transparent by delivering truth and clarity with conviction, or you can you choose to only deliver a partial message that causes confusion and emotional turmoil. For every leader there is a defining moment: Someone will ask you to withhold the whole story. If you do, the people in your business will see you as a liar. I get it; you’re in a high-profile business, and some very important people who make six or seven figures are telling you to “Keep it a secret. Don’t show anyone. For your eyes only—and only while you’re in the club of leadership.” I get your reality, but here’s the deal: If you choose to continue the dysfunction by not sharing the whole story, you are a liar. That personal label never feels good, and it’s incredibly difficult to get rid of.

If you’re not being transparent, you can’t justify being frustrated that people aren’t doing what the business needs them to do. That’s like inviting someone to a meeting, not telling them the room number or time, and then getting upset because they didn’t show up. When someone has clarity because he inherently knows that he’s being told the whole story, he’s motivated to move the business forward.

Let’s take it a step further. When was the last time you were excited, motivated, and inspired to do something nice for someone who was deceitful and manipulative to you? When was the last time you walked up to your significant other or friend and said, “I really wish you we’re a complete liar. That’s the type of person I want to be around. That’s the type of person I want to give my all to. That’s the type of person who gives me energy.” Yeah, the green kind that comes in the form of slime. Yuck! If you think this is harsh, you’re right, it is. And it needs to be, because it’s the truth. It’s the whole story that no one wants to talk about. Or it’s talked about, but we don’t allow it to get personal. We justify it by saying “It’s my job.” No, it’s not. It’s called leadership dysfunction at its best.

We convenience ourselves that being a liar is okay as long as we’re getting paid to do it. The more we get paid, the more we’re asked to lie. The more we lie, the more toxic energy gets dumped into the business. You and everyone one else in the business are now caught in a cycle of perpetual deceit that generates enough destructive energy that your whole body feels like it’s stuck in cement and you can’t move anywhere—certainly not forward. Yet we still go back to justifying it. Hell, we even feel important when we make it to the top and get to be one of the few people who not only know the whole story but also get to lie about it. When you look at it from the perspective of being in a personal relationship, you know it’s sick, demented, and wrong.

Just thinking about being on the other side of deception is enough to give anyone anxiety and heartache. Think about the last time you were lied to, the last time you were impacted by someone who chose not be transparent and give you the whole story. Do you remember the feeling of heaviness? Can you feel it now just thinking about it? That heaviness you’re feeling is the toxic energy that lives in a business when the business is unhealthy. It’s the same heaviness that every person, from the part-time janitor to the CEO, gets to carry when the business chooses to withhold truth. It’s the heaviness that businesses are asking leaders at all levels to deliver to the rest of the people in the business. Congratulations—you’ve made it to the top. Now the question is, do you have the courage to change it?

Gina Soleil, is a speaker and acclaimed author of Fuel Your Business: How to energize people, ignite action and drive profit. She blogs and speaks about how to create a business where people are energized, feel good and are happy. Email Gina Soleil and follow her on Twitter.

Escape the Great Tragedy of Life

havannaOften the great tragedy of our lives is that we don’t take time to notice.

Frank MacEowen, Author of The Celtic Way Of Seeing

Our lives move so fast that we often don’t stop long enough to notice the beauty around us. When we do stop we often find the exact thing we’re looking for… joy, happiness, love.

In 2006, I traveled through Argentina. During this time I was in the throws of Corporate America and moving faster than the speed of light. Everything I did, thought or pursued was on a time clock — and if it didn’t revolve around my email and task list it fast became a back-burner item. Immersing myself in the South American culture wasn’t going to change that…. so I thought.

My first week in Buenos Aires I had an appointment at 9:00 am. Waking up late I rushed into the coffee shop down the road and asked for a latte to go. The man behind the counter just stared at me. Frustrated and stressed because I didn’t want to be late, I again asked for my latte to go. The man again just looked at me and calmly said, “No.” My response, “What? I have a bus to catch and an appointment to get to. May I please have my latte?” He just looked at me,  pointed to a table by the corner window and said, “Yes, but you’ll drink it over there.” At that point I was on edge, stressed out and wanted my damn latte! So I agreed, and thought to myself, I’ll just quickly chug it down for the much needed caffeine and then make a run for it. I took my latte (like an eight year old who didn’t get her way) and sat at the corner table by the window. 

Then the Universe did what the Universe does… the moment I sat down and began to relax I was offered a profound life lesson. As I stared out the window of this quaint South American coffee shop I began to notice this little thing called life.  Shopkeepers were sweeping their sidewalks, neighbors greeted each other with a smile, children played on the corner laughing and the birds were feasting on breadcrumbs outside the shop. Even the strangers walking passed the window smiled at me as though it was their most important task of the day–and what I learned that morning is that it was.

I have tremendous gratitude for that coffee shop barista who clearly understood what I did not–the great tragedy of our lives is that we don’t take time to notice life. Everything we’re looking for… joy, happiness, love… exists in the moment we are in. No matter the storm or stress, serenity can only be found when you take time to sit by the corner window and notice the life that surrounds you. And remember, that smile from the stranger is the most important task of their day.

Author, speaker & coach, Gina Soleil is acclaimed author of Fuel Your Business: How to energize people, ignite action and drive profit. She blogs and speaks about how to create a business where people are energized, feel good and are happy.  Visit Gina Soleil  and follow her on Twitter.

Dream Big; Set Yourself Free

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Have you forgotten your dream?

If you could choose a new career or way of life that made your heart sing, what would it be? Dream big. Skies the limit. And money is no object. What would your heart want you to do?

As a child, the world was your oyster. Everything was possible, and endless possibilities were everywhere. Most of the time you didn’t even wait for someone to tell you whether you were right or wrong–you just went for it. The game of make-believe turned your world into a haven of creative bliss. One day you were a doctor and the next a rock star, dancer or sea captain. Every moment brought a new adventure that changed your world and made your heart sing. Pure freedom fueled days of laughter, a light spirit and a smile as big as could be.

Then you grew up. Imagination and creativity became structured. And structure put you into a box crafted by societal expectations. Money became a driving force, and “things” became a model of joy and happiness. Exhaustion replaced freedom, and freedom became heavy—noted only to describe rights, laws and rules. Rules, silent or publicly displayed, that were created to provide more structure and direction as to how you should live and behave. And one day you turned around and realized you forgot what your heart actually wanted to be.

It’s time for a personal revolution. You were born to create, imagine and be free. You were born into this world to live that big dream. You know the one….it never goes away. And as soulfully deep seeded as it may be, in moments of silence it awakens inside of you and asks you to play. Are you listening? Or, are you still searching outside yourself for that “something” you think that will make you happy?

Today, do one thing that sets you free.

Gina Soleil, is a speaker and acclaimed author of Fuel Your Business: How to energize people, ignite action and drive profit. She blogs and speaks about how to create a business where people are energized, feel good and are happy. Visit Gina Soleil and follow her on Twitter.

Leadership Transparency: How to Show the World You’re Human

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Great leaders understand the power in human-connectivity and the importance of personal transparency.

Leadership transparency is about showing up to the workplace authentically and allowing people to see that you’re human. It’s about connecting with people on a personal level and having courage to become vulnerable. Leaders who value personal transparency show people they care through both words and actions, and they clearly understand that leadership effectiveness comes not from “driving numbers”, but from having strong one-on-one relationships with the people on their team and throughout the business.

Leaders who are transparent are liked and respected by all; generating a following of people who want to work for them no matter what area of the business they’re leading. People want to know their leaders are human. In fact, the perception of leaders not being human is incredibly harmful to the business, because people only connect to other people who show their vulnerability and have a genuine desire to be in authentic relationships.

If you have leaders in your business choosing to avoid transparency and human-connectivity, they’re fueling your business with toxic energy. No one wants to follow a leader who chooses to not show people they care. If they do, it’s out of fear, and they will leave that leader as fast as possible and never look back. In the meantime, performance and engagement will be a constant uphill battle that’s impossible to win.

Moral to the story… If you’re a leader, take off the mask and show the world you’re human. Your team and the business will thank you for it.

Gina Soleil, is a speaker and acclaimed author of Fuel Your Business: How to energize people, ignite action and drive profit. She blogs and speaks about how to create a business where people are energized, feel good and are happy. Visit Gina Soleil and follow her on Twitter.

How to Live the Good Life: It’s easier than you think.

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Do you ever have those days when you feel like you have all your collective shit together? A rarity, I know. It feels great. You’re calm, relaxed, able to maintain a positive perspective, and even have a smile on your face as you walk through the office or down the street. It’s in these moments life is good.

The reality is that for most people days of calm and relaxation are few and far between. Half the time you’re running from one thing to the next while trying to eat breakfast, send off a last-minute email and chase the dog back into the house–at the same time and before 8:00 a.m. I’ve even been known to race my daughter to the bus while putting my shoes on as I run down the sidewalk–barely making it because I couldn’t wake up at 4:00 a.m. to get everything done! I haven’t even addressed the insanity that happens for most people after 8:00 a.m. So why do we continue to subject ourselves to days of insanity? Is it even possible for us to feel consistently relaxed and together in our modern-day age of hectic schedules and 24/7 connectivity?

I have good news. The answer is yes. It’s all about choice. And before you roll your eyes and say, “Yeah, right.” Choose to stop for a moment and think about this…

The Power of Choice
Fr. Norbert Weber

The power of choice is real.

We can . . .Choose to love–rather than hate.
Choose to smile–rather than frown.
Choose to build–rather than destroy.
Choose to persevere–rather than quit.
Choose to praise–rather than gossip.
Choose to heal–rather than wound.
Choose to give–rather than grasp.
Choose to act–rather than delay.
Choose to pray–rather than despair.
Choose to forgive–rather than curse.

Each morning, you have the power of choice. The most profound choice in our modern-day age is the choice to stop. You have the choice to stop, slow down and live in a state of calm. Yes, your life may feel like a constant hurricane or tornado, but you have the choice to exist in the eye of the storm. How do you stop when you’re already feeling out of control? Here are just a few additions to Fr. Norbert Weber’s already brilliant list…

Choose to say no to work, volunteering and enabling an energetically unhealthy person–rather than saying no to yourself
Choose to put away your phone, stop replying to text, looking at Facebook and answering email–rather than disappointing a child, pet, friend or your spouse
Choose to set time boundaries–rather than being on call 24/7
Choose to look up at the sky and in someone’s eyes–rather than racing to the next activity
Choose to do what you love–rather than doing what you loath

You have choice. When I ask people, “Do you ever have those days when you feel like you have all your collective shit together? Days when you’re calm, relaxed and able to maintain a positive perspective? Days when you have a smile on your face as you walk through the office or down the street? Days when you feel life is good?” The response I get is this, “Yeah, but it’s usually when I don’t have a lot going on.” Maybe it’s time you choose to stop and make the good life an everyday reality.

Gina Soleil, is a speaker and acclaimed author of Fuel Your Business: How to energize people, ignite action and drive profit. She blogs and speaks about how to create a business where people are energized, feel good and are happy. Visit Gina Soleil and follow her on Twitter.

Time to Quit: Have you stayed in a toxic situation too long?

Quit_Have you stayed too long in a situation that no longer serves you?

If there’s one thing for sure, life IS change. Nothing stays the same. Even when you’re standing still you’re evolving and moving forward. As you evolve, certain people and situations that once served as positive influences in your life can turn unhealthy or even toxic. When this happens it’s time to say, “I quit.”

Our culture is a breeding ground for the proverbial, when the going get’s tough the tough gets going attitude. Most people stay in toxic situations way too long; tolerating behaviors and environments that literally have the power to suck the life out of New York City. Why? At the core, most people don’t want to be perceived as a failure, the fool, non-dependable or uncaring. So rather than quitting and moving toward healthier new beginnings, they stick it out in hopes that the clouds will clear and the toxic situation will get better. Rather than sunshine and clear skies, the situation only gets more toxic. 

Here’s the deal: quitting is okay. Not only is it okay, it’s absolutely necessary if you want a healthier happier life. That said, I get it. Leaving a toxic situation is hard and damn scary–especially when it’s tied to your dream. A dream of a specific career path, that certain relationship, or becoming that image you’ve been striving toward for years. For those of you who like the straight and narrow path, the thought of changing course before realizing your dream makes you feel like someone is twisting your heart and stomach into a pretzel–making you want to throw-up at the very thought of walking away. Ironically, the toxic situation or relationship that has you hanging on with an iron fist gives you the same sick feeling. The difference: the sick feeling turns to relief and freedom when you walk away. When you stay, you get to carry that sick feeling with you everywhere you go–forever.

One of the scariest parts of quitting an unhealthy situation and relationship is often the thought of losing your identify. We think things like, if I change course now, who will I be? Who will I become? Will I make the wrong turn and lose out on what may have been? I’ve invested so much of my time, if I change course now will I have wasted all that energy and effort?  Oh God! Anything but that! The reality: if you quit, you get to live a new dream that’s better than anything you’ve ever imagined.

The hardest part of quitting a dream and opening yourself up to a new beginning (no matter how beautiful that new beginning may be) is mourning your vision of what could have been. It’s no different from mourning the death of a good friend. Your vision, idea or dream has been with you a great deal of time. Acknowledge your feeling of loss. Honor yourself, your strength and your courage. Then let it go in gratitude. Once you’ve given yourself time to feel at peace, start walking forward–and know that you did the right thing.

Gina Soleil, is a speaker and acclaimed author of Fuel Your Business: How to energize people, ignite action and drive profit. She blogs and speaks about how to create a business where people are energized, feel good and are happy. Visit Gina Soleil and follow her on Twitter.